Know Your Role!

Know Your Role!

By Dexx2G

This has to be the most perplexing topic I have ever discussed.  I actually don’t even know where to begin, so I guess I’ll just dive right in.  Ever since I can remember, there has always been this heated debate on what a woman’s role is or should be.  The funny thing about it is, not even the women can agree on what a woman’s role is.  The suburban housewife, Friedan wrote, "Was the dream image of the young American woman... She was healthy, beautiful, educated, concerned only about her husband, her children, [and] her home." Today being called a housewife has taken on a negative connotation and looked down upon and mostly by other women.  Nowadays, especially being a middle class citizen, a two income household is a must.  So the days of the woman staying home and cooking, cleaning and raising the children are quickly drawing to an end.  BUT that now leaves the question, whose job is to take care of the home?  Women have made great strides in the work force and have become Captains of Industry and I commend them for these well-deserved accomplishments but what about the women that have chosen to stay home and raise the children, do the cooking and cleaning, basically the housewives?  Are we to now look down upon them or treat them as lesser citizens trapped in a capsule of times quickly fading?  They too can be educated women, which by choice have become homemakers or housewives.

I am very liberal but in some instances I believe that there are definitely roles that men and women are responsible for.  I have a relative (I won’t mention her name) but when we are at family functions I noticed that she served her husband and kids first or while the men sat and watched sports or just conversed she got him his drinks or whatever he needed.   I didn’t consider her subservient or feel like she was setting back “The Cause”.  She is a career woman but yet plays a specific role in the household.  She is definitely old school!  A real rarity.  In my opinion women have become selfish!  They have gotten to the point where they use women’s Lib’ as a wild card.  They still want us (men) to open their doors for them, take out the trash, kill the bugs, shovel the snow, mow the lawn, and all the other traditional male roles.  In addition they want us to cook, clean, do the laundry, and if it were at all possible, they would probably have us carry the babies too!  Now I understand that this isn’t every woman because I actually have some friends that feel as though it is still their role to make sure that their man has a home cooked meal or that they are supposed to keep the home tidy.  These are very educated women and formidable workers, but never-the-less still believes in some of the traditional roles of the woman.  This is of course well within reason, because we (men) help out with these things too, it’s called compromise.  Some men have adjusted to the “selfishness”.  They have taken on a lot of the traditional female roles and have become househusbands or stay at home dads.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a stay at home dad, (actually I wouldn’t mind doing it).  Women can’t accept this as a gesture of compromise, no they emasculate these men, the same way they emasculate men when they make more money than them or hold a hire position.  We get it ladies you can do what we can do.  I could go on forever about what a woman’s role is but none of it would matter, because as long as there are women out there bellowing “I don’t need a man for anything!” I am just wasting my breath.   If you don’t think you need a man it’s probably because you can’t get one, at least not one that would treat you right.  I’ve never heard a man say “I don’t need a woman” because that would just sound stupid.  No matter how wealthy or how powerful a man is, he is never really complete without a companion.  I will continue to play my role as the man in the relationship and hopefully the day will never come when “Male Liberation” is the trending topic.  Let me hear what you guys have to say because I’m quite sure there is some garish woman out there that thinks that “roles” is an antiquated way of thought and it only perpetuates sexism, but we’ve heard your chants, we’ve seen your picket signs and watched your triumphs over chauvinistic oppressions but please do not lose your instinct to nurture or feel as though men are no longer necessary.

MICHAEL Michael Kors Hamilton E/W Tote